Dibs.....Why bother?
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Dibs.....Why bother?
I'm starting to get fed up of "dibs" posts in the classifieds.
On three occasions now I've bought things that have been "Dibs"ed where the "dibser" has pulled out, where I have known from the off I am willing to buy.
I moderate on another forum where dibsing is banned in the classifieds (as is a mystical "pm sent"). All a dibs does is discourage other buyers: surely any questions should be posted in thread, or via pm?
I prefer a concrete "I'll take it", perhaps an "I'll take it subject to"..... pics / size info / postage etc etc.
Thoughts?
On three occasions now I've bought things that have been "Dibs"ed where the "dibser" has pulled out, where I have known from the off I am willing to buy.
I moderate on another forum where dibsing is banned in the classifieds (as is a mystical "pm sent"). All a dibs does is discourage other buyers: surely any questions should be posted in thread, or via pm?
I prefer a concrete "I'll take it", perhaps an "I'll take it subject to"..... pics / size info / postage etc etc.
Thoughts?
Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
I dibed pending size of a tent packed, turned out it was too big. I pm'd him afterwords to tell him I'm not interested now and why, he then updated the thrad.
I can't see the problem.
I can't see the problem.
Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
I view it as a tactic to discourage other buyers. I wouldn't take any notice of it when buying or selling (and when selling, I'd post to negate any dibbing) but each to their own.
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Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
Surely "dibs" is just a slang way of saying, "I'm interested" - it's entirely up to the seller to react in any way they see fit, as in "Show us yer money"! (When I was a kid, it was "bagsy", but I imagine that forums, the web vs. of bulletin boards, have adopted the US word as a consequence of their origin back in the dim distant ancient past of the 'Net)
It reminds me of the time I had a very nice bass guitar for sale. A guy rang me and asked about it - "Sounds great", he said "I'll have it". He rang again to say he was on his way to get some cash and asked me to keep it for him. He rang again a bit later to check my address and said he'd be around in a few minutes... I never heard from him again.
It reminds me of the time I had a very nice bass guitar for sale. A guy rang me and asked about it - "Sounds great", he said "I'll have it". He rang again to say he was on his way to get some cash and asked me to keep it for him. He rang again a bit later to check my address and said he'd be around in a few minutes... I never heard from him again.
S
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Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
simonineaston wrote:Surely "dibs" is just a slang way of saying, "I'm interested"
My understanding is that "dibs" is a slang way of saying "I'll have it" - so I agree with the OP.
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Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
'dibs' means first claim. It's not a commitment, though. A better translation is 'it is mine if I want it'. It probably has come from the USA, but in most places it was children's slang until fairly recently.
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Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
fast but dim wrote:Thoughts?
Similar discussion four years ago. viewtopic.php?f=1&t=50727&start=15#p421680
Si wrote:We advise that people PM the seller and leave a post in the thread to show that they are interested.
IMO posts of "Dibs" and "PM sent" are both expressions of interest.
Si wrote:However, as has been said, it is the seller's item and their choice to sell to who they want - the forum can't control this, only advise. ...
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Spinners wrote:simonineaston wrote:Surely "dibs" is just a slang way of saying, "I'm interested"
My understanding is that "dibs" is a slang way of saying "I'll have it" - so I agree with the OP.
As long as sellers are prepared to give first refusal to the dibbzers, there's not a lot you can do about it! The primary relationship is between seller and dibbzer - everyone else is a powerless observer, waiting in the wings for such meagre scraps as get thrown down from the top table, when they've finished devouring all the best bits of the feast...
S
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The tread in Gaz's link mentioned the dreaded "Saddle Bag Thread" but unfortunately there was no link to that.
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Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
simonineaston wrote:Spinners wrote:simonineaston wrote:Surely "dibs" is just a slang way of saying, "I'm interested"
My understanding is that "dibs" is a slang way of saying "I'll have it" - so I agree with the OP.
As long as sellers are prepared to give first refusal to the dibbzers, there's not a lot you can do about it! The primary relationship is between seller and dibbzer - everyone else is a powerless observer, waiting in the wings for such meagre scraps as get thrown down from the top table, when they've finished devouring all the best bits of the feast...
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Re: Dibs.....Why bother?
Have to say I'm a bit ruthless and normally offer anything I'm selling as "first past the post" (i.e. paying) - too many tyre-kickers out there! Equally if I'm buying - I make a decision and go ahead and pay.
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